Stop blaming the kids!

***If you just had a baby this post is not for you. I’ve been down that road before and I totally get it :)

I always feel so uncomfortable when women randomly come up to me and say:” Oh I remember when I was as fancy as you. Now I have kids so everything has changed!”.     What I’m really thinking the whole time they are talking is :” Why did you stop?”.  I never find the courage to say: ” Girl stop blaming the kids!”.  Your children are not the reason you stopped putting something as easy as lipstick on, ok!  Yes, it’s true our body has changed and we have to get used to things we never had before like spider veins, stretch marks and a new pants sizes.  But that is NOT a reason why we should wear pajama pants everywhere we go. I’ve seen plenty of new mothers pulling their hair in a ponytail and adding a touch of lip gloss  just to feel a little prettier- I really admire them for that.   I just wish I saw more women doing the same. I mean even in the work force I see them showing up and not dressing the part. 

I know that it’s hard for us as women to think about ourselves and our family at the same time.  And I’m not saying every women has to be super duper extra like me sometimes! LOL! ( See picture below). But come ‘on ladies let’s get it together even it means wearing gym clothes everyday ( that’s my real life favorite outfit by the way) or a cute pair of jeans and a cute tee- do somethin’.  The truth is time will go by and pajama pants will become your new normal and they will take you into a deep hole you’ll never be able to get out from.  You’ll become that women who almost has a panic attack every time she has to find something to wear because she’s gotten so used to not caring.  It doesn’t matter if you are a size 2 or a size 16! And it doesn’t matter if you shop at Target or at Neiman Marcus- make it work and make the effort to do something nice for yourself. When we feel good about ourselves we are of much better service to everyone around us. 

My wish is that you will be confident enough one day to get dressed up, take fun pictures and love the women you see in the picture. Just remind yourself of the women you know you are and be proud of how far you have come. Have fun with your pictures and don’t take yourself too seriously. Also please remember not to get caught up in comparing yourself to others but admire your own beauty and be obsessively grateful for your life! 



PS I’m always rooting for you and I’m here if you ever need my help!

White blouse: here, here or here.

Black beret : here and here.

Fashion socks : here and here

Black skirt: here and here

Ankle strap sandals: here and here.

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